If you are like most people, you love the times in your relationships when you feel most loved and connected–but stress, time and changing life can create down times–moments when you feel unloved, hurt, hopeless and you wonder if your relationship should end, or whether you will ever find the right one.
Most people deal with this by just wishing the bad times will never come, or by tolerating mediocre relationship –”don’t rock the boat!”, or just enduring and wishing for better love.
If you would love to resolve these nagging doubts permanently, while deepening your love and connection, then you’re about to be extremely happy.
But first… can you tell me if any of these apply to you?
If so, you’re really going to get a lot out of what I have to share with you. You see…
You may know that we founded the Safe Conflict Project, a global approach to ending war. But our most important work got interrupted when global leaders had–just like you–distractions in their intimacies. So for years now we have privately coached and advised some of the most effective global change leaders.
We have taken exactly the same methods we use in privately coaching couples who are world leaders–philanthropists, politicians, diplomats and business leaders–and created an efficient process to address relationship dilemmas that have tormented people for years.
I know this might be hard for you to believe… and trust me, if I were you I would be skeptical too.
But here’s exactly what I’ve discovered:
There’s so much more we could say here–intimate relationship is never “solved” by some model or proof–it is lived, breathed, and touched in each moment. In fact, one of the biggest, most startling facts we learned is that the less you “know” about your intimate, the more you feel and respond to them lovingly. And the more you allow yourself and your partner to be mysterious, the more love and pleasure you feel in your body. Really!
It all sounds wild… but it truly does work. In fact…
“The level to which they craft all these different aspects of looking at love and relating is, I don’t know, I’ve never seen anything like that done before, and it’s opened me up.”
~Raj & Gabrielle Sundra, Business with Balance Coaches, Transformance 90-Day Game (watch the full-length video)
“They’re doing serious work on the planet, and they’re also infusing it with a sense of open, light-hearted play. I’ve learned so much from these two teachers.”
~Michael Ellsberg, Author, Power of Eye Contact and Education of Millionaires, Forbes
“If I had the opportunity to spend time with them in a coaching environment, and I could do it for less than every penny I’ll ever earn in the future, I would do it!”
~Alex Allman, Author, Revolutionary Sex
“Some of the biggest impacts that we’ve had in our relationship, some of our biggest abilities to get beyond the blocks or see a much larger frame of perspective when we were lost in a smaller one, came from Amber and Nathan and their loving intention on us.”
~Bryan Franklin & Jennifer Russell, Silicon Valley executive coaches and thought leaders
“It was such a joy to actually experience Nathan and Amber’s ‘need assessment’.”
~Alicia Dunam, Bestselling facilitator
Want more? One week after the Discipline of Love workshop in New York City, we asked a group of those who attended, “What’s working for you?” Here’s what they said: Bryan, Camronn, Eric, Gabrielle, Jennifer, Raj, Robert
Now you see it really does work…
Everyone in the “relationship industry”–couple’s counselors, self-help books, therapists–they all start with “you are a problem”. Sound’s normal, right? Then, they go to work–find the problem, and make some change to fix it. Like your relationship is a “thing” that can be “fixed”–but really, it’s not!
As you know from looking at the results, the way the “relationship industry” tells you to fix your relationship simply DOES NOT WORK. Of course, there are some great counselors out there. But if you deepened your love and intimacy, it was most likely because you did it on your own, or even in spite of supposed “help”.
You know that. I know that. We wouldn’t be here if it helped.
But there IS an answer… it’s just not what most people think. Here’s what I mean:
You and your relationship are not a “problem”. Your intimate relationship is simply what it IS. You or your intimate might have suffering related to it–that’s why you are reading this! But your behavior, your reactions, your patterns of love and of un-love, your suppressions, your exaggerations, your frustrations, your beautiful moments–it’s ALL just you and your partner doing your best to give and receive love!
Working on your relationship like it is a “thing” that can be “fixed” is a total disaster! You end up spending endless hours, money and pain for minimal insight and change. You dredge up the recent or distant past, you look at the “why” of your family system, you make resolutions and agreements. But NONE of that is actually LOVE!
The reason the Discipline of Love works is because you come to understand exactly what you are doing right now. Relationship and love only takes place right now. You can only love, or act out your un-love, in this moment. Your enjoyable discipline becomes to love now.
Once you verify this understanding in your own experience, you will never again think that you could solve a relationship problem by analyzing your past and compensating for it. The most you would do is look back to observe your particular patterns of behavior, and from that decide what you do differently now, as a fresh adaptation to love.
By understanding relationship as occurring only now, the Discipline of Love makes a uniquely effective and efficient system. You realize your power to love, and you learn to use it.
Years of problematic suppression, maladapted behaviors and false understandings about love are undone in a few days of relaxed inspection and experiential practice.
I know I’ve put forth some radical ideas here that might make some people angry–probably the same people who have the most invested in “relationship-as-a-problem” who are selling “solutions”. For those people who have not yet realized their powers of conscious evolution, the simple disease theory of relationship might even be appropriate.
But for evolutionary couples – men and women who consciously create and understand themselves and their intimacy–the default approach isn’t acceptable.
The result that evolutionary men and women need is to free their love, their energy and their attention. This is done quickly by understanding and experiencing the deeper truth of intimate relationship–what it is for, what to expect from it, how to practice it, and ultimately to transcend it.
I know this might sound like a lot to chew. It’s why Amber and I decided to put everything together in a program that you can take advantage of. I know you want to experience consistently giving and receiving profound love, and so we wanted to do our best to help.
Amber and I created the Discipline of Love Four-Day Intensive when we saw how many powerful, evolutionary men and women–people like you that we are counting on for global change–were sidetracked by unwelcome interruption, pain and energy drain from their intimacies. Normally, evolutionary couples are sustained and inspired by their relationships–so when an evolutionary couple goes south, what is normally a huge positive turns into a huge negative–it’s painful to witness, and even worse when it’s you.
In the past when Amber and I had difficult moments, we found we were so embarrassed to have a “problem in the relationship” that we didn’t want to turn to our friends for help–because we were supposed to be all “evolutionary” and enlightened! Right? After all, people looked to us as an example in relationship. Ahem. Well, that kind of thinking didn’t help us at all–plus our friends can tell anyway, who did we think we were fooling?
Once we get over ourselves and practice what we know, things straighten out instantly. And we expected the same from other evolutionary couples–but we were disappointed! You see, the worst part is that over and over we see creative, powerful people working diligently to repair and deepen their love and intimacy…by doing the wrong thing.
This issue appeared so urgent to us, and the answer so obvious, that we set out to create a system for any evolutionary couple to leap to the next level.
And judging by all the feedback Amber and I have already gotten, I’m quite confident it can bring you to the next level of intimate love as well.
You see, we have created this so that you can first understand the hidden forces that have scripted your intimate life, and then transcend them, and then recover boatloads of energy, optimism, focus and attention–while living the most juicy, powerful, sexy intimacy you can imagine–or better!
All of this is delivered in a personalized, tightly designed, four-day intensive taught personally by me and Amber. After four of the most mind-blowing, insightful, world-changing days of your life, you will answer all your deepest dilemmas, and go home with your simple, clear, personalized practices that save you time and magnify love.
And although this sounds like your investment is going to be tons of money… it won’t.
I know, you might be wondering, “What’s the catch?” Because until now, only elite millionaires with VIP access–and who also passed the test to be an “evolutionary couple”–were able to get anything like the Discipline of Love from me and Amber or anyone else.
In fact, besides Amber and me, there are only three other people in the world that I would trust to create this transformation in you…
So why would Amber and I put together this training? My coaching partnership is paid $35,000 per month retainer for five or six days of work by corporate clients. Amber and I have designed customized programs for rock stars and philanthropists–of course the same confidentiality that protects you prevents us from saying exactly who.
Working with the Safe Conflict Project, Amber and I convene “Peace Synergizers” at which leaders in business, philanthropy, government and conflict resolution create long-term practical plans for causing global peace–which, if we had it, would be worth over $8.7 trillion per year! Now that’s real value, right?
The answer is–it’s time for us evolutionary people to evolve faster–and we know how to do it. Amber and I, like you, feel personally responsible for the evolution of humanity. The reason we are offering this workshop in a straightforward way, for the minimum workable cost , is because we all need to do this.
And when you add up the cost to you of sidetracked projects and untapped potential of love and contribution–how much it would it be worth to you to free your energy and attention? Unresolved questions and suppression in intimacy are like having invisible slimy life-sucking alien parasites feeding on your potential for wealth and contribution–until they are seen through and disappear.
That’s just the savings–the real positive value is in the experience of the deep, rich, connected intimacy that you could be enjoying every day–even if you know you already have a great relationship! Amber and I are constantly astounded how the bar for love, sexy hotness, simplicity and enjoyment keeps getting set higher and higher.
But the highest value is transcendence–the lived experience of the sacred domain, discovered and verified in your own experience–with no effort, you become an authority on things spiritual. Because you see it directly, in every moment, plain as the nose on your face. But, we know that the energy required for this spiritual transformation is bound up in your emotional-sexual patterns–unless you make them conscious and live life on a different basis. We intend that freedom and transcendence for you.
But truth be told, it’s also important to us to make sure you get a great value. It’s good for everyone, since you’ll feel free to recommend this to your friends. And that helps us help more people.
You see, have you noticed how everyone goes all weird when it comes to spirituality, sexuality, and money? –like we can’t just be straightforward about it! It’s because there are so many charlatans and scams and snake oil being sold based on people’s fears and naïve hopefulness. We hate that.
To get this kind of transformation on your own, you’d have to drop everything, like I did, like Amber did, and make a years-long, thorough, fearless investigation of sexuality, spirituality, love and relationship. And you would have to be very fortunate in your teachers, as we have been and continue to be.
It’s been in the back of my mind, and Amber’s, that teaching these intensives is wonderful but very demanding work, and because we can’t easily duplicate ourselves because of the deep training and nuance, we may have to raise our prices.
But you won’t need to worry about that! Acting fast has its rewards:
The upcoming Discipline of Love Intensive will be in the Boulder, Colorado area, from Friday the 15th of February until Monday the 18th.
We’ve extended the early bird price of $1495 per person and $2495 per couple because our friends asked us to…they needed time to talk to their friends about going. Now, we’ve limited the participants to just 20, and spots are going every day…
So like you, we make big decisions quickly once we have all the information we need. The famous Sufi poet Rumi said, “it is not whether you listen to your heart. It is how quickly you act on what you hear.” Go ahead and click on the link to get your spot and get started on the Discipline of Love Four-Day Intensive.
Sounds pretty fair, right?
And remember -
With that said…
As you can see, I tried to make this as easy as possible for you.
As soon as you sign up, you’ll get instant access to everything I mentioned–a free Discipline of Love membership, which includes access to ongoing video trainings, access to participant-only preparation calls; the Discipline of Love Four-Day Intensive live workshop taught by me and Amber; free access to three alumni-only integration live teleseminars after the Intensive; and access to evolutionary alumni events scheduled for next year.
Once you click the Register button, you’ll be taken to the Discipline of Love EventBrite registration site. There, you’ll choose Couple or Individual.
Enter your name and your credit card information. If you want to pay by check, just email me at “nathan at-sign disciplineoflove dot com”. Important: your ticket covers all sessions with no extra fees. Your transportation and lodging are your responsibility–but Amber and I will make every effort to make it convenient, comfortable, clear and cheap for you.
The process is extremely simple and you can look forward to tangible benefits starting with your first free preparation teleseminar. So go ahead and fill out the order form now and I’ll look forward to seeing you on the “other side”:
Yours in service,
P.S. Remember, just 30 participants get in — we have space now.
Click here to register for the Discipline of Love Four-Day Intensive.
P.P.S. Remember you have absolutely nothing to lose because if you don’t experience a much greater value than I am promising, you can get 100% of your workshop fee refunded the next day. Click here to get started.
P.P.S. You’re still here. You’re obviously interested. You obviously don’t want to continue living with your doubts, compromises and painful distractions–and you do want juicy, hot, free, sustained love, sex and intimacy. By participating and investing in yourself, you can have this all cleared up. Do this exercise we will do in the Intensive, called “no delay”. Simply make your decision now–what do you most want to say yes to? Ignore your doubt–it’s not you, is it?–and use your simple but awesome power of decision. I totally trust you to make this decision. Allow the magic–especially considering I’m guaranteeing your transformation. Take advantage while the opportunity is in front of you… honor the time you have put in thus far, and don’t look back.